You’ve been considering plastic surgery for a long time, and you’re ready to take the plunge. You’re tired of living with a nose that detracts from your bright sparkly eyes, or a figure that’s too heavy on the hips, or a face that shows more age than you feel. You know you’re doing it for the right reasons: So that you’ll feel more like the you that you know yourself to be.
And yet, you’re reluctant to broach the subject with friends, family, and your partner. How will they react? Will they try to talk you out of it?
Julio Garcia, MD, an artist-trained, double-board certified plastic surgeon in Las Vegas, knows what a life-changing process having cosmetic plastic surgery can be. Finally living out a long-lived dream can give you a feeling of intense satisfaction. But saying good-bye to the old “you” can be difficult, too.
Both you and your family may have misconceptions or negative views of plastic surgery that make you reluctant to move forward. Maybe you see self-improvement as self-indulgent. Or you might be afraid your biological family feels that you’re rejecting them and the way they look.
Talk to Your Surgeon First
Dr. Garcia has heard many tales of women, men, and teens who’ve been afraid to broach the subject of cosmetic family surgery with their friends and loved ones. He believes it’s important for you to understand every step of your procedure so that you’ll be able to convey that knowledge to loved ones who may be concerned for you.
Dr. Garcia goes over the risks and rewards of your surgery in your consultation. He encourages you to ask any questions you have, and to ask those that your family or friends may have, too, including where to find the best plastic surgeon in Last Vegas
Make Sure It’s for You Alone
Your consultation with Dr. Garcia also answers another important question: Are you considering plastic surgery to please yourself, or to please someone else? If you believe you need plastic surgery to win the approval of someone in your life, Dr. Garcia encourages you to reconsider.
A cosmetic plastic surgery procedure is a gift you give yourself, and shouldn’t be undertaken in the hopes of controlling someone else’s reaction to you. You are lovable and beautiful with or without cosmetic enhancements.
In fact, if you have a negative self image or body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), plastic surgery may make you feel worse. Just think about celebrities who overdo plastic surgery in the hopes of turning back the clock to their 20s or getting a “perfect face.” If you think you have BDD, Dr. Garcia can refer you to a specialist.
Assure Them You’ll Still Be the Same
Cosmetic plastic surgery not only improves your looks, it also changes the way that others look at you. In one study, women who had aesthetic improvements were not only rated as being more attractive after surgery, but also more trustworthy and likable. Other studies suggest that attractive women and men earn more and and are more successful than those who are average looking.
Getting plastic surgery is a form of self-improvement that may seem threatening to those around you. Will you still hang out with your friends if you’re now more attractive than they are? Will you still look like your cousins after you get a “new” nose?
When you open the conversation, assure your friends and family that you love them and that the changes you’re making are in the service of furthering yourself, and that you’re not rejecting them. Don’t take it personally if they’re afraid or angry about the changes you’re considering: This only means they love you and don’t want to lose the “you” they know.
Assure Them You’ll Still Look Like “You,” Too
Dr. Garcia doesn’t try to make your facial features look like those the latest celebrity. His aim is always to make you look like a better version of yourself. While poorly performed plastic surgery can radically alter someone’s face (think of that “windswept” look sported by insecure celebrities who’ve had too many facelifts), beautifully performed plastic surgery makes you look more symmetrical and better balanced, while still preserving your unique natural beauty.
Get a Digital Preview
Even if your personal surgeon doesn’t offer digital “after” photos that let you preview your results, find an app online that lets you do something similar. While it won’t be as professional as an image provided by your surgeon, it can give your friends a family a sense of what the “new You” will look like.
Ask for Help
Whether you’ve having a liposuction body-contouring procedure to remove excess fat, a nose reshaping liposuction, a facelift, or other surgery, you need the help of those around you after your procedure. If you include your loved ones in your plastic surgery process, they’ll feel assured that you’re not rejecting them.
Depending on the extent of your surgery, you’ll need someone to drive you home and may need help with housework and meals for days to weeks afterward. Divide the tasks between willing loved ones to make your self-improvement a group project.
Don’t Look for Permission
Just as some families don’t want their children to be overly educated or move too far away, your family might not want you to change or pursue your dreams. If your family doesn’t support your ambitions, you may have to accept that they’ll never be OK with the improvements you make. The only people who must approve your decision are you and your plastic surgeon.
Find a Plastic Surgeon Who Respects Your Ethnicity
Dr. Garcia trained as an artist as well as a surgeon and only makes improvements to your face and body that are truly flattering. He also is an expert at ethnic rhinoplasty and facial surgery that takes into consideration anatomical differences between the races.
If your nose is bumpy or long — and yet it’s part of your cultural heritage — Dr. Garcia can improve the look of your nose and enhance your facial harmony without obscuring your ethnic background. During your consultation, Dr. Garcia discusses the types of improvements you want to make, what aspects of your unique facial features you want to change, and how your ethnic identity can still be preserved.
Share Only What You Feel Comfortable
Cosmetic plastic surgery is something you’re doing for yourself, so sharing your decision with friends and family should be based on your own comfort level, too. Share your decision with your most supportive or closest loved ones first. Once they’re OK with your desire for change, they can help you break the news to more resistant family members or friends.
Be Prepared for a Mourning Period
While you may have a better vision of yourself that you’ve been aiming toward for years, your true friends and loved ones accept you just as you are. After your surgery, they may agree that you look more attractive, younger, and happier … but still miss the old you.
You may miss the old you too, for awhile! Part of the adjustment after cosmetic surgery isn’t just letting your body heal, but letting yourself acclimate to your “new” face or body. Having your supportive loved ones around you during this transition period can make the process easier.
Be Prepared to Inspire
After you’ve healed and revealed your new nose, younger face, or trimmer figure, don’t be surprised if your friends and family ask for your surgeon’s contact information. Beautiful cosmetic plastic surgery results inspire others to make the changes they’ve been pondering secretly, too. Many of Dr. Garcia’s patients are referrals from other patients.
If you’re ready to for plastic surgery and are wondering where to find the best plastic surgeon in Las Vegas, contact Dr. Garcia for a consultation. Use the online form or phone his friendly staff.